New York Times bestselling author Randi Zuckerberg can’t wait for you to learn how much better your life will be once you pick just three things to focus on instead of trying to do everything—maintain friendships, devote time to work, get fit, get enough sleep, etc.—a concept spelled out in her new motivational book, Pick Three: You Can Have it All (Just Not Every Day). Zuckerberg’s ultimate goal: For us to stop feeling pressured to be so perfect all the time. The author recently talked to Parade about this seemingly doable goal.
Pick Three is perfect for anyone feeling over (or under) whelmed with life and its daily stressors. It’s also good for people in transition or in a state of flux as well as for those who like to keep organized and focused toward a goal.
Yes. This is how Pick Three followers can find an ultimate balance. Let’s say you’re leaning heavily toward WORK one week. To counterbalance this, the next week you can pick FRIENDS or FAMILY or whatever you were lacking during your busy work week. This is why I recommend journaling or calendar tracking your daily choices. This way you can count where you were skewing one month and off-set that balance the next month—attaining an overall sense of balance by living askew!
I know that business leaders, employees, parents, teachers—everyone!—is working extremely hard, but I had no idea how much my Pick Three theory would resonate until I put it out there. The reaction has been incredible. I heard a story about how the Pick Three structure helped someone get a job, how Pick Three helped career women free themselves of the “mommy guilt” they experienced working long hours, and how picking three helped people stay on track of their fitness goals.
Honesty is always the best policy, especially because being honest about our failures and personal life journeys can help others relate to their own. I’m a working mother with two young sons under the age of eight, I run my own business and travel over 100 days a year. I’m a TONY voter responsible for seeing over 100 shows a year, and I’m a wife, daughter, sister, friend and a fitness buff who likes to stay healthy, too. That’s a lot of responsibility to everyone who relies on me—and to myself. I make mistakes, I feel the tug of FOMO when I can’t be in two places at once. I experience the twinge of jealousy when I scroll social media and see people winning at life. But I’m doing my best. That’s all I want for readers to see about themselves, too—we’re all doing the best we can. But we can do better if we hone our focus. Pick Three helps us learn to focus in an achievable and honest manner.
I always love when the World Happiness Report comes out and the top ‘happy’ countries are always colder Nordic places like Norway and Finland. Sunshine does not a happy person make. The same way simply saying “work/life balance” does not make it so. We all have lives, and in those lives we have responsibilities, interests, people we love, things we love, but we can’t hit upon all of those aspects of our life every day with the same amount of focus and energy, no matter how hard we try. This goes for any country, whether you’re living among the puffins in Iceland, the World’s Most Peaceful Place, or among the lions in Kenya, the World’s Top Safari Destination. Peace and happiness come from the choices we make, the sacrifices we take and the personal safaris we go on from within. The quest for balance is universal, but the truth is perfect balance is a myth. Pick Three aims to help everyone from anywhere find the best balance that works for them, one day at a time.